Unbelievable, unbearable chapters of life-Why me?
Do you know the similarity between these cute emoji succulent pots and our lives? To show the world we can fake perfect, happy emoji faces but deep within, in reality, there may be an emotional wreck. Many of us can relate to this and so I wanted to share a story of a friend, with her permission. She is a living testimony for all of us to see that people experience different versions of struggles and until it is shared with us, we cannot recognise it. She has faith that God loves her, knows her hardships, and hears her prayers. She believes that His plans are always the best. She trusts God and is waiting patiently with the understanding that all things will work together for her good.
As a friend, when I look at her social media pictures and her posts, she has the most amazing, perfect life, that would make anyone jealous in every way. A wonderful career, beautiful house, a loving husband with whom she is celebrating her 15 years of marriage, many holidays with their child, parents, in laws and more. The perfect life! No one sees the hurt behind her beautiful smile because inside those four walls of her house, behind closed doors, her relationship with her husband has drifted apart. There is no explanation why they are emotionally detached. Some of the reasons she recalls are the busyness of life, running around for appointments, kid's extra curricular activities, work life imbalance, illnesses and unresolved problems of their past. He is not willing to talk, share burdens or seek help to find a solution for their separation. Blaming each other without having a proper conversation, and frustrations leading to more verbally abusive behaviour that has a real impact mentally, emotionally and physically.
When doubts filled her mind, when it was taking more time for change to happen, and when somedays were more difficult to move forward, she asked, "why me?" I did not have an answer, like many other unanswered questions in my life. I felt helpless because I could not say that it is okay, God has a plan. Can this be a plan? How could a loving God make few suffer, when everyone that we look at has a wonderful life? I could only say, "Thank you for sharing, I will pray for you." I couldn't help in any other way in her marriage but continue praying for her, knowing that God can heal their wounds and change their hearts. But when? How do you respond to a situation like this? I am sure when troubles come, we all ask the same question, why me? And I thought, why not me? Why her? Why not her? Why me? A sacrifice for God's purpose in that family? God, how do you choose? Who am I and why me?
To give up, walk away in search of a better life may be easier, but, she is thinking about the repercussions, the embarrassment and the effect of their separation on their child. Going through this process is painful, but she has made the decision to look beyond that grief, without giving up and to live with the expectation that one day, everything is going to be perfect. The decision to stay there in faith, hanging on to the thread of love that they still have within, and living in that hope that these troubles are temporary and life will be better soon. Satan always tries to destroy the foundation of love and unity in families. He knows exactly when to pull the right strings of strife, doubt, and self pity. He can also fill our minds with distractions of the world, to blame each other without taking responsibility for the situation that they have reached.The Bible mentions that a house divided against itself cannot stand, and we have to be careful not to let that division break up our family.We can waste our valuable time feeling sorry for ourselves and cry over things that we cannot change but, have the willingness to change ourselves understanding God's unconditional love. When unexpected things happen, continue trusting God and live one day at a time, embracing today with confidence.I admire her endurance and I am prayerfully waiting to witness what God has in store for her life.
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“When unexpected things happen, continue trusting God and live one day at a time, embracing today with confidence.”
Thanks Preeta.